Attachment Theory and Addiction

Attachment theory describes how people approach relationships. A child’s relationship with their caregivers plays a large role in how they relate later in life. However, it’s possible to start healing from an attachment style that is causing distress at any time. This typically takes building healthier relationships and doing inner work. The attachment types are…

A Conversation About Boundaries and Recovery With Author Pixie Lighthorse

I spoke with author Pixie Lighthorse about her book Boundaries and Protection. Specifically, we discussed boundaries as they relate to addiction, recovery, and codependence. Boundaries and Protection is an incredible resource for anyone who is trying to figure out, as Lighthorse put it, “’Where do I end and the loved one in my life begin,…

Mindfulness

Mindfulness and Recovery

One thing many of us in recovery struggle with is presence. It’s almost impossible to be present during active addiction, as intoxication separates you from your feelings, and addiction changes the brain to make you hyper-focused on the substance. But even in recovery, our instinct may be to try other ways to escape our emotions…

Winter

Winter in Recovery

For some people, winter can be a hard time in recovery. Besides the holidays—which can be stressful—the days getting shorter and darker can be hard. Everything about winter feels slower, so finding motivation to make changes can be a challenge. However, there are a lot of benefits to getting—or just being—sober in the winter. While…

Social-Skills

What is Social Skills Training?

Social skills training is a type of therapy that helps people with mental health and developmental disorders improve social functioning. It helps them build communication and listening skills, as well as work through anxiety about social interactions. In social skills training, the therapist will ask you which social situations you find most challenging, and which…

Altruism

Altruism in Recovery

When we’re in active addiction, it’s difficult to care for or help others. Addiction changes the brain so that we are hyper-focused on the substance, and we tend to become more self-absorbed. In recovery, the ability to help other people is one of the best gifts—to the people you help, but also to yourself. When…

Control

Control in Recovery

Control in recovery is a complex and interesting thing. It’s important to try to release the need to control your life or your feelings. On the other hand, for many of us, getting sober is the first time in our adult lives we have control over our lives and our actions. While these can sound…