An important thing I’ve learned since being sober is that there isn’t only one way to “do” recovery. It can be really helpful to get tips from others, and people in recovery can relate in a lot of ways. But in the end, everyone is different; everyone’s recovery will be different as well.
Put a Plan in Writing
I’ve found it helpful to write down a plan that works for me. That way I can refer to it later, and add to it as I learn more. The more time you spend sober, the more information you’ll have about your triggers and the coping skills that feel most helpful.
You could try listing your triggers. These are the people, places, circumstances, or feelings that might make you want to drink or use. For instance, walking past a bar at which you used to drink might be a trigger. If you’re new to sobriety, you might not have encountered any triggers yet, but you can make some educated guesses about what might trip you up.
After you’ve identified your triggers, list ways that you can cope with each one. Again, if you’re new to sobriety, this may be a challenge; however, you don’t have to be experienced at using these coping skills. Part of your plan will be to practice them even when you’re not faced with a trigger.
These ways of coping should be personalized; what works for someone else may not work for you. For instance, some people may need breathing exercises or meditation—things that slow them down—when faced with a trigger. Others might get restless when triggered, so sitting still wouldn’t be the best option. In that case, someone might go for a walk, run, or bike ride.
Learn and Practice What Works Throughout Recovery
Not only is each person different, but people have varied reactions depending on the circumstances. That’s why it’s good to build self-awareness in recovery through things like therapy, meditation, or whatever works for you. That way you have a nuanced understanding of what triggers you, when you’re most likely to get tripped up, and what you can do to feel better and stay sober.
The fact that each person recovers differently is hopeful. It means that you can’t compare your sobriety to anyone else’s—and that the only gauge of how your recovery is going is your own growth.
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